Step into the intriguing world of Reddit, where curious minds come together to seek answers and spark discussions. A recent post caught the attention of the community, posing an intriguing question that triggered an array of responses. In this article, we delve into the background story that led to this query and explore the diverse perspectives shared by the commenters. Get ready for a captivating journey through the thoughts and insights of the Reddit community!
A Vegan And Omnivore Couple
“I (24) and my husband (25) have been happily married for a little over a year now. We met through a mutual friend and he learned very quickly that I am a vegan. About a year after we met and got closer, we started dating. He had no issues with me being vegan, but made it very clear that I couldn’t force him into being a vegan, which I respected. I haven’t ever put him down for eating meat in front of me, as that is his choice. Each to their own. We even served both vegan and meat-inclusive food at our wedding to accommodate both of our families.”
“Up till now, everything was great. However, recently I’ve been seeing a ton of vegan recipes on my pinterest and decided I wanted to try making one for dinner. We don’t usually end up getting to have fancy dinners at home as both of us work full time, but I found some time today to cook something up. It was a recipe for pulled pork sandwiches, but the pork wasn’t actually pork, instead it was jackfruit. He seemed a little stressed about work but I showed him the surprise dinner, and that seemed to help his mood out.”
Best Sandwich Ever…?
“He ate it happily, and even complimented my cooking. But when he asked what was in it – and when I told him it was a pulled pork sandwich with jackfruit as a meat alternative – he lashed out. He shouted, telling me that he made it clear he was staying a meat eater. I tried explaining that I wasn’t trying to turn him into a vegan, but he’d just walked away then. This happened a few hours back, and now he’s refusing to talk to me.”
So Reddit, Am I the Jerk?
What’s The Issue?
One Redditer responded like: “I do not understand people like this who love food until finding out that it is vegan. You are not pushing veganism on him – you made a meal that you could eat and that he ended up enjoying. I do not see the issue.”
Becoming Vegan from One Meal
Another Redditer said: “Eating a single vegan meal does not make you vegan. That’s like saying that I’m a fitness enthusiast because I went to the gym once last year.”
Not All Food Needs To Contain Meat
“as a meat eater, I can never get my head around meat eaters who get mad about being fed something that doesn’t have meat in it”
“My dad told a story once about how we stopped for lunch and ordered a lentil burger, and to make conversation I guess, the guy says “are you a vegetarian, eh?” My dad said no, I eat meat. And it blew this guy’s mind. He couldn’t understand why someone who eats meat would order a meat alternative. This was the 80s so I’m pretty sure my dad wasn’t concerned about intensive farming practices or meat-free Mondays, he just wanted some lentils.”
Omnivores Can Try Other Diets Too
“I’m really confused by his reaction. Would he have a similar meltdown about a kosher meal because he didn’t want to keep kosher in the future? This is extremely childish on your husband’s part.”
“You made a meal and you both ate the same thing and the same time and he didn’t think it was vegan? His reaction seems overblown unless you were selling him on it as pulled pork and only later told him but even then it’s not like you are giving him something he is allergic to.”
Veganism Or Meat?
“You didn’t tell him it was vegan, true. BUT…it sounds like this was dinner that you both ate. So, he saw you eating it. If you, a vegan, are eating it, it must be vegan.
Is he really angry not because you gave him a vegan meal but because he thought he’d gotten you to leave veganism and eat meat randomly?”
Was He Tricked?
“Meat lover here. People who think they have to have meat in every single meal or else someone is trying to “trick” or “convert” them are pathetic and immature. Your husband should’ve been glad you cooked for him but instead he was probably embarrassed he admitted to liking vegan food. He needs to grow up.”
What About The Already Vegan Kinds Of Stuff?
“Oreos are vegan, would he throw a fit if you gave him an Oreo? I seriously don’t understand people like your husband, good luck being married to a person like that.”
Defensiveness Against Vegan Food
“I genuinely don’t understand people’s defensiveness against vegan food sometimes. I’m a happy meat eater but if I’m being served vegetarian / vegan options, and I didn’t even have to cook it?? Plate me the heck up.”
Veggie Based Meals Can Be Hearty Too
“Pasta with a basic marinara sauce is often vegan. People eat that for dinner all the time, it doesn’t mean they’re vegan. It means that tonight they may have eaten a meal that did not include eggs, dairy, or meat.
I get really weirded out by people who insist that all meals must include some form of animal product, and I’m a meat-eater. Not all my meals include animal products, because well, veggies and veggie-based meals are also heart-healthy.”
Original source: reddit